Women are continuing to make strides in the professional world and now outnumber men in many graduate programs.
But all those career achievements don’t always lead to relationship success. I coach many professional women to get out of their own way in the dating world.
For DatingAdvice.com, I shared some of the top phrases working women can lose.
1. “Men are intimidated by my career.”
This by far is one of the biggest myths about today’s men.
After interviewing hundreds of men, I’ve been pleasantly surprised to discover most want a partner in life, not a passenger. They want to root on a woman pursuing her goals and also feel supported.
What they don’t want is a woman who throws her success in their face or makes a man feel like she doesn’t need him in her life.
So along with sharing your professional passions on a date, be sure to share your personal hobbies and the things you enjoy about his company.
2.“I want love to happen organically.”
Dating is not the romantic comedy we grew up watching. Your dream guy is probably not going to spot you across the street, stop traffic and ask you out.
Knowing that doesn’t stop many women from still holding out on their fairy tale to begin and missing out on a real-life romance.
One thing I do with my coaching clients is ask them about a career highlight. Their eyes light up as they tell me about something incredible they pulled off and we write it all down.
With that burst of energy, I let them know discovering lasting love will require some of that same faith, muscle and commitment.
Just because you meet the love of your life by asking your friends to set you up or strategically going to conferences full of the types of guys you want to date, that doesn’t make the connection any less magical or your bond any less fulfilling.
Getting the love you want requires casting your net as wide as possible to meet your match.
3. “Right now, I’m just really busy with work.”
There’s a lot of, “Should I call? What to wear? What the hell is going through his head?” while on the quest for love.
With the uncertainty of dating, for many women, it’s easier to focus on a sure thing — their work.
But this is a big mistake as your job will never hug you back and a few frogs are worth it when you find your prince.
Psychologist and dating coach Paulette Murphy, Ph.D., realized the importance of finding a partner at the beginning of her career.
“When I was doing my residency, I noticed early on that when people are dying, nothing mattered more than their significant other and family,” she said.
Investing in relationships and people is vital to your long-term health and happiness.
And recent studies also show an active dating life can increase productivity in workers. Double win!
Have you caught yourself saying any of these phrases or discovered other dating mistakes career women make? Share in the comments below!
What do you think of the mistakes we sometimes make in the quest for love?