These proposals have been circling online and I had to share. First up was a very public proposal at a party. In front of the crowd, the would-be-groom has a Ruben Studdard-esque singer serenade his lady. As she looks on with wide eyes and no smile, he gives this speech.
“I love you so much. You are the woman I need. You are the woman I want. You are the woman I have to have. I can’t go back in time to change anything that I have done. But I know for a fact that I don’t want to wake up another day without you by my side.”
Then he drops to his knee. The crowd goes wild. He asks her to marry him. Someone yells don’t embarrass him. She pushes the ring box away and tells him to get up. Women yell they will take it. We read her lips: “You can’t fix it.”
It’s obvious he has messed up in a major way and thinks this grand standing apology will indeed fix it. If three sentences into asking me to be your wife alludes to craziness in the not-so-distant past, we have a lot more to talk about than peonies and place cards. The problem is you can’t combine the needed repair to a broken relationship by asking for a lifelong commitment – and joining my credit. How can I pledge forever if I’m not sure about tomorrow?
The Almost Proposal:
My guy friend who posted the video says she should have said yes to not embarrass him. That would have been the easy way out to ignore the obvious obstacles to this fragile relationship for a flashy ring. And also sending the message to more guys that the road to redemption is an apology and dangling of a diamond.
Well, maybe so according to Jennifer Hudson’s video for “No One Gonna Love You”
A toned and gyrating Jennifer Hudson wakes up to her sexy man and has to remind him it’s their anniversary. He leaves and she cleans up his clothes off the floor and pizza box left around. She then gets dressed up and heads to the restaurant for dinner. Just as she is about to get out of her car, he calls to cancel. She goes home livid and opens the door to him with balloons and a romantic surprise. He pulls her angry self into a hug and slips the ring on her finger. My girlfriend and Jennifer found it romantic. I wasn’t so convinced and saw a lifetime of cleaning flash before her eyes.
Would you say yes to these proposals?