Being single is the perfect time to protect your next relationship by preparing for it. Check out these tips I shared with the Single Wives Club.

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Before beginning a new relationship, you have to clean shop of your heart and home. Many of my clients have come to me wanting a strong relationship and an active dating life. When I start to ask about past relationships, a pseudo-ex or current “friend” pops up of a guy they aren’t officially dating but still obviously in their heart. We often hear about women’s intuition. But men can also sense when you are not 100% available. Before you can invite someone new into your space, you have to clear out the ghosts of relationship pasts. Does the mention of your ex still cause your eyes to become slits? Only sleep on “your” side of the bed two years after a breakup? Still regularly checking the Facebook page of the cutie that could have been? Those are signs of relationship residue that can taint new love, if not cleared. Physically purge any reminders or digital connections of old flames.

Uncover Your Relationship Habits

Like our physical behavior, our dating DNA is part nature and part nurture. There is a reason all the dating reality shows bring on the parents of the contestants. They provide a peek into how you can be in relationships. Are healthy relationships in your family? Do you model your mom’s knack to shut down during arguments or your dad’s routine of bringing up the past? It’s important to recognize the habits you have picked up and decide which to keep and lose. Also think back on past relationships to discover patterns. Do you usually date emotionally-unavailable men? Are you often giving an ultimatium? Ask close friends to share their observations to find your blind spots.

Embrace Vulnerability

A big chunk of a strong relationship is letting someone else see our full selves, including the parts we would prefer to keep hidden. True intimacy is not about taking your clothes off but letting your guard down. To prepare for a strong relationship means to prepare to share. You don’t have to wait for romance to start sharing more of you with those you already love and trust. Work to let your closest friends and family in on more of your life. Instead of the routine “fine” to questions of how you are doing, let your circle know about the stress at work or the medical issues your grandmother is facing. Get in the habit of letting loved ones see all of you.

 

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